Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Class Notes - What do you do when 1 student is being bullied?



photo courtesy of mangee

Today in class I had a really difficult time controlling my students. I am not very good with "class management" and I do apply techniques that I learned at Fred Jones "Tools for Teaching Workshop" but some times they do not seem to work for me. I'm sure I am applying them wrong because, normally, they do work...

However, today, well, this week has been pretty difficult for our entire community and maybe I am being a little too lenient because of the tragic event that occurred last Friday...

This doesn't excuse the amount of bullying I witness in class against 1 of my students. It isn't that they are overly physically mean but there are taunts and obvious disrespect. I am not really sure what to do any more. I talk to the students individually. I feel like I catch it when it is happening and they just continue. I know, I need a consequence but I am not sure if I can give detentions for that or if that will backfire and they will end up harassing this kid outside the classroom...

What would you do? Or what do you do? It makes me sad and frustrated and pissed off. I get really angry at them because it just seems so mean to me.

If you have any suggestions, please post them. I am feeling at a loss right now...

3 comments:

Jen said...

This is so sad, how terrible for that one student, and how difficult for you!

Hmm what would I do, this is tough, anything you do could backfire, the only thing I would say is to try and get the one student alone and ask if they need help you will help them, but you're right the chances of you punishing some students will backfire on the student, I've seen it happen.

I'm so sorry, let me know what you do and how it turns out!!!

Patricia said...

Our school has zero tolerance on bullying. I've witnessed the effects of bullying first hand. My son (who has severe epilepsy) was bullied 4 years ago. He became clinically depressed and suicidal and was put on medicine for 6 months. This, in turn, has made him ineligible for life insurance! I ended up homeschooling him for the next three years. He is back in school this year - but at 6 feet tall and heightened awareness by his teachers, there hasn't been a problem.
So, my suggestions - REPORT IT. Bullying can quickly get "out of hand" especially if they think they are getting away with it. The person being bullied needs to know they have an advocate in someone - let it be you.

Anna M. said...

thank you Patricia! I didn't even think about that. I'm going to talk to his deans. It's really out of hand. This last class meeting they were very good and then the kid, who usually gets bullied, started pushing them. Thank you.

and thank you too Jen. I have talked with him and he's acts like it's not a big deal...